Parenting
Parenting
We are our children's first teachers and teach them so many things as they grow and they start reflecting us more and more. They show us the mirror of our doing and our true self which inturn teaches us even more. Sometimes they highlight our weaknesses and throw challenges at us. In this mirror of ourselves we notice the dimensions of our life which need to be changed to become a better version of ourselves. But to realise and teach (them as well as ourselves) we need to communicate and here, communication doesn't mean to give instructions and advice, rather we should listen to our children with our heart and not just ears. We must remember that strong relationships are built with healthy communication.
So, talk and listen because the way we talk to our children becomes their inner voices. Their inner voices should give them strength, motivation and faith in themselves. Many parents have a habit of criticising the behaviour and actions of their children but before doing so we need to understand their feelings, emotions, thoughts and information that actually lead to a particular behaviour or action. As action or behaviour is the outcome of the feelings and emotions that the child is undergoing and these feelings and emotions are generated from their thoughts which comes from the information gained and their past experiences . So we need to keep a check on what we say about our children because whatever they hear about themselves from parents and near and dear ones and friends make their stories. Recall your story about yourself.
We all have our own stories about our personal life, professional life, financial life, emotional life and spiritual life. Those stories were created by us in the companionship with our parents, friends and other family members and near and dear ones. If our story is limiting in any area of our life it will keep us stuck and won’t let us grow in that sphere of our life and these stories that we keep telling ourselves over and over again convinces us and forms our belief system about ourselves. So let our children have stories that will empower them to work harder and perform better.